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A Scruff alternative

Scruff is an app for men who want to meet men. Only Gays is a separate site for adults who want to meet a man nearby. Joining is free. There is no subscription and no credit card.

In short

Only Gays does not charge to join or to message. A profile is for members who are signed in. Scruff is a different service. Check their site for what they charge and what a profile shows.

Who it may suit

Only Gays

  • You want to meet a man nearby, without a subscription.
  • You want a username on the profile, not your legal name.
  • You want to pause the profile without deleting it.

Scruff

  • You already use Scruff and you want to stay there.
  • You want to look at both and decide for yourself.
  • Their current terms match what you want. Check Scruff. Those terms change.

Side by side

The first line is what we do. The second line is what to check on Scruff. We do not publish their terms.

Cost

Only Gays is free to join and free to message. A voice call or a video call on the site is free. There is no subscription and no credit card, so there is no charge on a statement.

Scruff sets its own price. Check their site before you join. A price can change.

The profile

Other members see the username you chose, your age, your town, and the photos you chose. They do not see your surname, your address, or your workplace unless you type those in. A web search does not open the profile.

See what Scruff puts on a profile, and whether a web search can open it.

The age check

The age check is free. A person reviews the ID. Other members never see the document, and your legal name is not put on the profile. Until it is approved, you cannot message, and other members' photos stay blurred.

See how Scruff checks that a member is an adult.

Photos

A person reviews an upload. One current photo of you is enough before search opens. A private photo stays locked until you share it. Until the other member has done the age check, your photos stay blurred for them.

See who can open a photo on Scruff, and whether you can keep one private.

Messages

The conversation stays on Only Gays. You do not have to reply. A message that asks for an email address or a phone number is not delivered.

See whether Scruff lets a stranger ask you to move the conversation somewhere else.

Leaving

You can pause the profile. Other members cannot find it while it is paused, and you can still look. Deleting the account removes the profile and the messages you sent. Delete photos and videos first. That cannot be undone.

See how to pause or close an account on Scruff.

Frequently asked questions

Is Only Gays free?

Yes. Joining Only Gays is free and messaging is free. There is no subscription and no credit card.

Can a web search find my profile?

No. A profile on Only Gays is for members who are signed in. Searching the web does not open it.

What if someone asks for money?

Only Gays will never ask you for money, a gift card, or a verification payment. Stop, and report the profile. They are not told that you reported them.

Should I leave Scruff?

That is your choice. This page says what Only Gays does. It does not tell you to close another account. Check Scruff for their current terms.

Does Only Gays speak for Scruff?

No. Scruff publishes its own terms, and those terms change. Check their site for the current cost, privacy, and how to leave.

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